What’s Wrong With My Family, and How to Live Your Best Life Anyway
Family. We all have one. And with all the gifts they bring, along comes at least a few lumps of coal-from some friction to downright anger and dysfunction. What’s a healthy family anyway? What’s a toxic one? Where is the middle ground? And how do you navigate family relationships to negotiate conflict resolution? WHAT’S WRONG WITH MY FAMILY explores the problems stemming from even the healthiest to the most destructive ones. Most important, it teaches what issues arise within you from your own family of origin, and how to heal from the wounds. A book of hope, it shows that no matter where you come from, you can live your best life anyway.
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A recent VA study has confirmed that opiate based medications are being overused in returning veterans with PTSD from war trauma. Many of the veterans suffered physical wounds, but a large portion do not, and the opiates are simply being used to mask emotional symptoms. This is due to the lack of funding for treatment of PTSD in the VA. The current techniques of individual and group therapy combined with EMDR (a hypnotic induction treatment) are highly effective, but time consuming and expensive. Opiates are cheap and feel good. At least for a while!
There is a long history of opiate use in the military. Milk of poppy was given to Roman soldiers entering battle to quell fears and keep them from feeling wounds. The first large-scale study was post Civil War where “old soldiers disease” was described, referring to men chronically addicted to Laudanum. Every town square in America was populated by hopelessly addicted veterans, many with chronic pain and other with PTSD. Psychotherapeutic treatments had not been developed.
The science of PTSD treatment today is well advanced and effective. The treatment of chronic pain is also much more efficient is providing relief. Giving opiates to treat PTSD while avoiding real, legitimate treatments is a disgrace we all share. We must ensure our veterans receive proper access to effective care!
Grief and loss are as old as the human experience and an expected part of all of our lives. Grief helps us “measure what we’ve lost”, mark time and put love ones into an honored place in our psyches. Remembering when someone died, and their value to us, is part of all our individual and family legacies. We idealize, and occasionally degrade, those who have passed. Close ties stay with us forever.
Neuroscience shows us that grief is most connected to the “fear system”, explaining the angst of acute loss on separation from a beloved object. Real fear is in children whose parental loss signifies danger and vulnerability. So, how do we approach loss in the most productive way?
A large scale study showed people who engaged in psychotherapy, those who increase their spiritual life, and those who simply “waited it out”‘ had a similar amount of time (about one year), for uncomplicated grief to pass. It has a life of it’s own. Complicated grief, where you have conflicts with the departed, (100%?), did better in therapy. We all benefit from exploring and expanding our spirituality. Reaffirming currant ties is also a help and can have lasting value. Denial; pretending it didn’t happen, had the worst outcomes.
As we age, our ability to deal with loss determines the quality if our lives. The longer you live, the more people you will lose! Honoring the loved ones lost while eventually releasing the grief is the task the frees you to engage the life in front of you. For each of you, enjoy this day, and all those to come!
With the closing of the Silk Road website for buying illicit drugs on the internet, we have had a spike in hospital admission for people going into acute, severe withdrawal. Heroin. Suboxone and other opiates, as well as all forms of addicted substances, could be purchased and delivered conveniently to your front door with no hassle or troublesome dealer to go through. Of course, the Feds finally caught up with them, cutting off easy supply to many addicts. Perhaps they will get another shot at recovery.
Worse, the young adult population is now flooded with K-2, Diablo and other synthetic marijuana products. Unlike pot, these cause acute brain injury and psychosis which often leaves residual brain damage. A recent patient was using Diablo and pure hemp oil extract and developed a severe psychotic reaction and organic brain syndrome. He could not speak his own name and defecated and urinated on himself. We gave him markers to write his needs and he drew incoherently across the wall. He is an honors HS graduate and a college freshman. These sites make access to these dangerous substances as easy as ordering a pizza!
As the debate rages on about legalizing controlled substances, I think all would do well to learn about the risks an damages done. You would never wish this for your child or someone you care for. It is our duty to protect young adults from life altering dangers!